Monday, April 23, 2012

Recognizing The Lies and Saving Your Relationships

Last week I talked about Spiritual Warfare.  Our family has been in the midst of warfare for 2 weeks now.  I so appreciate God allowing us to experience this with our eyes wide open.
Winter girl high-key
I am going to share something with you that has happened a thousand times in 20 years of marriage and so I know that it will speak to some of you.  Mike and I were blessed with a date night, thanks to our oldest Allie.  She offered and we jumped at it.  All that day we had been fine, work went as usual for Mike and my day was busy but good.  He asked me where I wanted to go for dinner, I said that I didn’t care.  He said he didn’t either.  Seeing that one of us had to make some suggestion, I said that I would like to go to the little Mexican place in town.  Mike did everything he could to talk me out of that place so I said that again, I didn’t care where we went.  (I know you have been here, why does this happen?)

Anyway, he wouldn’t make up his mind but wanted me to and yet talked me out of the one place I did suggest.  So, up till here is just normal stuff, I suppose.  All of a sudden in my mind, I was this beat down wife who was never able to speak my own mind, Satanwho sacrificed everything for everyone with nothing in return.  O.K. well that is all a big fat lie! Where was all of that coming from.  I even had vindictive thoughts toward the love of my life.
Thankfully, the Lord opened my eyes and instead of becoming the victim of whatever was going on here.  I simply talked to Mike about what I thought was going on.  I said  “I think that Satan in lying to me”.   I explained all that has gone through my mind.  He agreed that I must be under attack but also admitted to being partly at fault. 

In the past I would have given in to the lies and pouted and ruined our night.  I am so glad that God helps us to grow and get stronger in our faith.  So, next time you feel beat down by someone or circumstances, reach out to the Lord and ask him to lead you through so that you can conquer those lies.  It seems like a daily occurrence for us, that we are seeking God to help us to be more than conquerors.
Rom 8:37
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.



  1. Wow, that sounded like something that would have happened to me and my husband. I probably would have reacted badly and the night would be ruined. Next time I'm in this situation I'm going to think about how you reacted. Thank you for sharing! I'm following you, can't wait to read your posts.

  2. Yes, I've been there, where a perfectly good evening is hindered by lies swirling in my head. Thankfully, I think I've grown a lot since we were first married. Yet, still encounter this sort of thing frequently...I think just able to better reason it out and pray through it a little better now. Still learning and growing!

  3. I so related to this post. I have been in the car with my husband, and I tell myself, "Just be quiet and pray through."

  4. Oh my, I can relate, too. I can't imagine how many relationships would be helped by recognizing the lies the enemy wants to beguile us with-- including in my own life. I love how you spotted the lie in this circumstance and then openly talked about it.

  5. Life is so much better when we recognize what is TRULY happening and get outside of what is happening in our heads. So glad y'all had a good night and that the enemy didn't win!

  6. Yeah you! You caught it quickly. I love stories like this because you can see the practical tool of turning to your spouse when you find yourself in turmoil. Speak up and put the lie down.

  7. This IS almost an every day occurance in our home! Thank you so much for your valuable insight I needed to hear this.Im your Newest follower please stop by and chat with me as I could use the encouragement and maybe even follow me too:) Thanks again,Deidre~