Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The Tough Days of Motherhood

The other day I was reading a post on a blog that I like.  The writer is a young Mama.  She was pouring her heart out, and venting about some of the frustrations in her life connected to being a young, stay at home mom.  Some of the frustrations were loneliness, boredom and just feeling out of touch with the world.
I remember those says so clearly.  I was just like her, I married right out of high school and had our first child within 2 years.  Even though I choose all of this it still was a struggle.  I longed for a best friend as she does, someone I could confide everything and share the struggles of motherhood.  But she never came.
Now I am thankful that she never came.  I learned to confide in and share my struggles with two best friends that I had hiding in the wings, my husband and my mom.  They have both always loved my unconditionally.
I also remember feeling unable to do some of the great things that I wanted to do, which lead to boredom and feeling out of touch.  I knew God had big plans for me.
I am thankful that I didn’t do big things back then.  Now I realize that I was not equip, I thought I was but I was not.   I also realize that I had then and still have 4 gigantic ministries I take care of, in the lives of our four children.   We now have one adult child and one very close to being an adult and I see the impact that my life has had on them.  Our faith, values and love for others has been multiplied by 4 more lives. 
I love to serve others, if I had spent my time and energy on that alone, instead of in my family, I would have been just me, but when we go to serve today we come as a army of 6 very willing servants.
The days of loneliness and boredom(of mind not body, those little ones keep you hopping) will be their.  Seek out those who are in your life right now, pour into them all of you and draw strength from them as well.  The days of constant activity and the desire for boredom will be on your door step before you know it.
God Bless!!


  1. I remember that feeling as well, but also am shocked when I look back and realize how quickly that time went. It is so important to just "be" with little ones~hanging out, playing, building that relationship and bond that lasts a lifetime. Although in every stage God gave me friends who were at the same life point I was in and we were able to share and grow together...not to mention I LOVED when their kids misbehaved the same way mine did so I could keep perspective on stages and ages and how to deal with such things. Hope the young mom finds friends who can relate even if they are virtual! :)
    Keep up the God work.

  2. I completely agree with you! My girls are in the middle now (11 & 9)...but I remember those feelings VERY WELL when they were small. Now I'm starting to see the fruit of focusing on THEM - and have the stamina & excitement to continue. Love this, thank you!

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