Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Is There Something High Schools are Leaving Out?
Sadly, with our first daughter it didn’t occur to me till her Senior year of high school, but I realized that one very important option was left out of my daughter’s array of choices for after high school career choices.
The idea of motherhood was never once mentioned as a possibility. The recommended path is of course finish high school, go on to college and then on to your career and live happily ever after.
What about children? Why aren’t children in that path? Why is the thought of, a plan for having children not in the equation?
So in my daughter’s senior year we began talks about what life after college could look like. Most woman want children at some point. We talked about how that might look in her plan.
Did she want to work and have children? Did she want to be a stay at home mom? Did she want to work part time?
I know you are thinking how in the world would an 18 year old know what she wants. She didn’t completely answer those questions of course but it did get her mind thinking about the options and that was my goal. How many of us wish that we would have thought about these things a little sooner that 2 months before our first child is born or worse yet the last 2 weeks of your maternity leave?
Now she is able to think about jobs that will work well with a family, careers that she can do from home or part time when needed. It has even made her think about children and her relationship with a future husband, and what that may look like.
Hopefully those of you with future Mommies in your home, will prepare them with the knowledge that you have about being a mom and what it takes and the sacrifices that you very willing make for her.